Love and Need

Pursuing ONLY what you need in this life will turn you into a zombie. Life is fun and it's a total waste if you are missing out on it. Your emotional needs will be neglected, and this will effect your relationship with other people.

Pursuing ONLY what you want in this life will turn you into a slave of your own desires. You will feel no satisfaction. You keep wanting more and more, although what you already get is more than enough. You will be trapped in an obsession.

So, you must be able to turn what you want into what you need.

Take a look at children. You might think that the only thing that they have in mind is pure joy of playing. That is true on a certain aspect.

But actually, as they play, they also learn. That is why educational games are created, and children actually want to play with them. Because they learn. Because they need to learn.

In simple words, they learn by playing. They achieved what they need by doing what they love.

So ask yourself,

1. What are the things that you are really in love with?

What are the things that bring you pure joy when you are doing it? What are the things that pleasure you? 

2. What are the things that you need? What do you need to do?

There are a lot of needs in our life actually, like maintaining good relationships with others, having enough supplies and resources to continue living, etc. How we prioritize them might vary within each individual. But regardless of that, we do have needs, and there are a lot of them.

3. How can you use those you love to achieve those you need?

I am not writing this to tell the cliche but dangerous statement, "Go quit your already secure, stable, profitable but boring job and pursue your uncertain, blurry dreams."

I am simply trying to tell that in doing what your love, you can use it to fulfill your own needs. It is just a general statement.

In vice versa, in doing what you need, you can also use it to do what you love. That is also applicable. That is also good.

So, maybe you are stuck in obsession of what you like, which fulfill none of your needs. Now, it is time to think how to manipulate that into fulfilling your needs. Because it is crucial to have your needs fulfilled, to keep you being alive, essentially.

Maybe you are too busy trying to fulfill what you need, until you are missing out the fun in life. Bear in mind that emotional need is also important. It is what fuels your heart up. It is what makes you human.

So, love and need is indeed different. But why choose one when you can have both?