If She Says No, It's A No

Sexual assaults are quite different from other types of assaults. They are defined not exactly by the magnitude of damage, but rather the consent of both parties.
And this consent must happen before, mutually.

Everyone loves sex and wants to have one. But that does not justify you to be entitled on a person's body, demanding things that she was not ready for or declined to, and even worse, manipulating how she should feel about it.

Saying no should be simple, and accepting 'no' as an answer should be simple, and they should stay simple.

If one says no, it's a no.

Even if it is just a slight hand touch.

Simple rules, everyone.

I know, you just want to have fun. That girl just needs a little bit of convincing. A little bit of touching, she'll get hot. A little bit more, she'll feel the fun.

Right?

But sex is more than just a mere fun act. Sex is one of the ways you bond with your partner, and grow your love together. It is out of love and fondness. It is sacred and noble. Might explain why certain religions and cultures allows sex only after marriage.

So, as much fun as you want to have, if she says no, it's a no.

You may don't want to really think about it. She said no, but you pretend not to hear it. You try to convince yourself that she was not convinced, and you need to show it yourself.

"She wanted it."
"She was just not ready."
"She didn't say no."
"She did said no, but she changed her mind."
"She enjoyed it, she just acted like she didn't."

"I deserved it."
"I have been nice to her."
"I know she wanted it."
"I know she enjoyed it."
"I love her."

You love her? Really?

I bet you love your mother and your sister. Imagine some random bastard doing those things to them.
Imagine you see them walking home, crying to their misery.
Imagine them not being able to trust people around them the same way again.
Imagine them being depressed for months, even years, due to that.
Imagine them failing in all of their relationships, even their relationship with you, because one bastard had fucked up not just their bodies, but their interactions with other people.

Because again, we both know, sex is more than just a mere fun act.

So please.
You might want to insist on having fun, but it is not worth it, even if you are able to force herself against you.
You will walk away feeling nothing, lurking for another girl.
But she will feel miserable for God-knows-how-long.

She is not just a hot body, with a hot ass, with a hot pussy.
She is someone's daughter.
She is someone's sister.
She is someone.
Like you are.



(for #MeToo)

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